The Confident Woman: Living a Better Balanced and Healthier Life
On May 11, 2017, the Tyson & Mendes’ Women’s Initiative held an engaging and thought-provoking luncheon entitled, “The Confident Woman: Living a Better Balanced and Healthier Life.” At this panel discussion, author Marjorie Hansen Shaevitz discussed ideas from her book The Confident Woman and the impact of societal pressures on women’s confidence and health. Co-panelists Jennifer Adams of James River Insurance Lisa Unger of Markel discussed the application of these principles to their professional and personal lives. The panelists provided valuable insight, helpful advice, and useful suggestions for dealing with these pressures in our everyday lives as legal and insurance professionals.
The solution-oriented seminar identified practical ways women can lead more confident lives. Ms. Hansen Shaevitz shared with the audience that confident women “know who they are.” As she explains in her book:
[Confident women] have a strong sense of what they like, what they want, what they like to do, and what makes their lives rich and full. . . . But confident women are not reckless with their time or energy; they carefully choose [how and] with whom they spend their precious time.
Ms. Adams and Ms. Unger discussed how they identified things they enjoy most in their professional lives and ways to bring more joy to work.
Should You Say “Yes?”
As part of the discussion, Ms. Hansen Shaevitz also provided a useful tip for prioritizing how to spend free time. She posed a formula the audience can use for determining a response when an opportunity or an invitation arises. It involves asking two questions, then answering them by assigning them a number on a scale from 1 to 10 (1=no way; 10=absolutely yes).
Two Questions to Know Whether to Say Yes or No
Question 1: How much do I want to do this?
(Rate the activity or event from 1 to 10.)
Question 2: Given everything else that is going on in my life, how important is it that I do this?
(Rate the importance or event from 1 to 10.
Ms. Hansen Shaevitz suggested if the sum of the scores from the two questions is 13 or less, do not do it. If the sum is 14 or more, then do it and enjoy yourself!
Bringing More Joy To Life
The group also discussed specific people, places, things, and activities that bring joy to our lives and make us feel confident. By identifying one’s priorities and creating the space for these priorities, professional women take a step towards self-care, better health, and more confidence.
Audience members left the seminar with concrete ways to live a better balanced and healthier life with confidence. Tyson & Mendes Women’s Initiative thanks our panelists for their support of this program.